If you have ever met someone with narcissism, it can make you keenly aware of anyone else who shows narcissistic traits. But what are the 7 types of narcissists, really? How do you know the signs or personality traits to look for and when it may be time to cut any attachments with people who have these traits?
Experts work with five main types of narcissism: overt, covert, communal, antagonistic, and malignant narcissism, however, I break them out into 7 categories to make it easier to understand them and how they operate, primarily to help people who have to deal with them.
When it comes to treatment, narcissism can be tricky because many people living with it don’t necessarily feel the need to change. For the average narcissist, there is nothing wrong with them; they expect everyone else to adjust to them.
It seems that labeling a person as a narcissist was the vogue thing in 2022; however, while almost everyone has some narcissistic trait, it does not mean they are suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder. A person may exhibit certain behaviors that fall withing the spectrum of behavior of a narcissist, but the origin of the behavior may be related to past experiences and not a personality disorder.
A narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health/personality disorder. It is characterized by an individual having a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an inflated sense of self, and an excessive need for admiration. According to the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, a person with this mental health/personality disorder must exhibit at least five of the following characteristics, which are usually present by early adulthood. Luckily, an online therapist can help identify a narcissist in your life and give you the tools to address your relationship.
The difference between a narcissist and a selfish person is the consistency of their symptoms as egotistical, vain, boastful, and smug. They do not have the capacity to care for other people due to their mental disorder, so they act callous, uncaring, and hostile towards everyone that surrounds them.
While there are several characteristics of narcissism that may be seen in any of the types of narcissism personalities, narcissists are generally labeled by the most common personality trait they display.
These types of narcissists tend to be attention-seeking and thrive on the admiration and praise of others. These narcissists generally believe they deserve special treatment and are more valuable than other people and crave being the center of attention. These narcissists are self-absorbed, exploitative, and don’t mind using other people for anything that fits into their goal or agenda and become offended easily if others try to deny them anything they think they deserve.
As the name suggests, this type of narcissist personality does whatever they can do to make you feel good about yourself, at least at first. These narcissists may appear to admire you and may even idealize you, but their main goal is to make you feel that way about them so that you can be used to further their agenda and take advantage of you. Someone who has seductive narcissism generally wants your admiration and will flatter you to get what they want. Don’t be fooled, though. When a seductive narcissist no longer needs you to compliment or stroke their ego, these narcissists may leave you and move on to a new target.
One way to tell whether someone with narcissism is being sincere with you (and they likely are not) is to watch how they treat others. The way someone with narcissism talks about or treats former co-workers, friends, or even former romantic partners is a good indication of how you will be treated when you are no longer needed.
Make no mistake. This type of narcissist personality, contrary to the name, is not vulnerable. Vulnerable narcissists are, however, very good at playing the vulnerable victim act and pretending to have that vulnerable personality trait. Someone with vulnerable narcissism seeks attention by trying to get pity from others.
People with this personality are very manipulative. Their behavior is often so subtle that it can be difficult to spot the warning signs. A person with vulnerable narcissism personality tends to use their ability to manipulate the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors of others to help fuel their own ego trip. If a person sees through this type of narcissist’s behavior, he or she will likely act hurt or offended and will then move on to another, unsuspecting target.
When you think of a covert narcissist, think of a covert or “secret” military operation. Also known as “closet narcissism,” this type of mental health disorder is exhibited in ways that are planned, calculated, and generally comes as a surprise. This is exactly how a person with covert narcissism acts. This type of narcissist often uses guilt-tripping and emotional manipulation to get what they want. This personality type will study, then belittle their partners and deprive them of physical or emotional needs until they get what they want. When someone with covert narcissism does get what he wants, he will then show affection or buy gifts to gain more control over his partner.
As opposed to overt narcissism, which is quite clear to others, covert narcissism is not as easy to spot. These types of people are very good at masking their manipulative personality so that it is not detected by others. They come across as charming and use that charm to seduce and manipulate others into acting for their own purposes.
The narcissist with a grandiose personality tends to see himself as more influential and important than anyone else. People with this personality may exaggerate their importance and brag about accomplishments to elicit your admiration or envy. This is seen as overt narcissism. Someone with grandiose narcissism generally believes that they are destined to do great things and can be judgmental or overly critical towards the people around them. This type of narcissist is very driven and charismatic, often drawing the attention of others, which is what feeds their all-about-me personality.
The charisma with which a person with a grandiose or overt narcissism personality pursues goals may leave others feeling the need to compete for attention. However, this is not recommended. Any time a grandiose narcissist is challenged, this personality will likely increase efforts to be the most superior.
Also known as antagonistic narcissism, this type of narcissism is defined by someone who is incapable of showing any empathy or compassion toward others. People with this malignant narcissism are often called sociopaths or psychopaths. A person with malignant narcissism is very controlling of the people in their lives and put forth strong efforts to isolate their victim or target. This type of narcissism is hard to hide and could be categorized as overt narcissism.
People with antagonistic narcissism rarely feel guilt or remorse no matter how much pain or anxiety they cause for others. On the contrary, people with this personality are usually driven by the feeling of complete control and may enjoy causing pain for others. Watching people struggle and feel oppressed gives people with malignant narcissism an opportunity to play the hero and then set a victim up to be hurt again.
Vindictive may very well be an understatement. If you challenge a person with vindictive narcissism, they will do everything they can to destroy you with their aggression. Someone with vindictive narcissism may gossip about you to your friends and try to break up friendships. They love to play the victim to bosses and try to get their targets fired. If you were married to someone with vindictive narcissism, don’t be surprised if they try to turn your children against you through constant criticism of your behavior.
Unfortunately, vindictive narcissists are very good at hiding their true nature and intentions from others. Therefore, if you suspect that someone you know has vindictive narcissism, try to distance yourself from their contemptuous actions as soon as possible. Save emails, texts, and other communications that can prove the person with narcissism is harassing you or trying to harm you. While this may seem a bit extreme to some, once the damage is done by someone with vindictive narcissism, it is often difficult to undo it.
People with narcissistic personality types do not believe that anything is wrong with them and will rarely seek treatment. As with most mental disorders, experts say that narcissism exists on a spectrum. While some people may show narcissistic tendencies, like being condescending and rude, this does not necessarily mean that they have narcissistic personality disorder. This behavior could be attributed to something else, like growing up with a narcissistic parent. Just make sure that you have a proper understanding of this disorder before labeling a person with improper feedback.
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