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What To Do When You Feel Lost ~ Embracing the Process of Rediscovery
If you’ve ever felt lost, you’re shooting par for the course as a human being. Everyone faces this challenge sooner or later. Feeling lost is a sign that you believe your life is on the wrong track. Some of the most significant growth opportunities come during the process of rediscovery. Feeling lost is simply a result of sudden changes that we all experience. These changes can be emphatic, like relationship breakups, or less dramatic, like changing departments or roles at your job. Regardless of the type of change you have experienced, you can feel lost and out of control.
You feel like your life lacks meaning and that your future is uncompelling. This is a great time to take a long, hard look at yourself. You can learn a lot during this period.
Try these activities to find yourself and create a future that inspires you again:
- Make a list of things you’d like to see in your lifetime. One of the reasons you feel lost is that you don’t have anything to look forward to. You can change that quickly by making a list of all the things you’d like to see in your lifetime. Here are a few ideas to stimulate your thinking.
- Watch the Packers, and the Bears play at Soldier Field
- The Great Wall of China
- An opera in Italy
- The Grand Canyon
- The birth of a litter of puppies
- Old Faithful
- Mars through a high-quality telescope
- A Rolling Stones concert
- Make your own list, and don’t be bashful. Now pick one thing you can do in the next six months. If your list is too extravagant, and six months is an impossible timeline, think harder and add more items to your list.
- Make a list of things you’d like to do in your lifetime. What would you like to do or learn? Play bridge or chess? Speak Russian? Master the piano? Go waterskiing? Learn to paint? Take a zipline through the Costa Rican jungle.
- Think of something you can do in the next few months and start making plans. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive; it simply needs to be something you will enjoy and remember. The truth is that as we go through challenging moments in our lives, we can lose ourselves in the skirmish of trying to survive. If we are not careful, we will allow our circumstances to define us instead of refine and strengthen us.
- Think of something you can do in the next few months and start making plans. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive; it simply needs to be something you will enjoy and remember. The truth is that as we go through challenging moments in our lives, we can lose ourselves in the skirmish of trying to survive. If we are not careful, we will allow our circumstances to define us instead of refine and strengthen us.
- Revisit your old goals. You had a lot of plans when you were a kid. You wanted to be a cowboy or an astronaut or raise llamas. You had more realistic plans as you aged, but you still had plans that interested you. Perhaps you can rekindle some of that enthusiasm by revisiting those plans from the past. Unfortunately, we live in a world where our imagination comes under attack as we age. We are told to stop daydreaming and get our heads out of the cloud. The demand to be more realistic rings constantly in our ears. If we are not careful, people who gave up on their dreams long ago will force us to abandon ours.
- Think about why you abandoned those plans. Maybe the reasons you changed your mind are no longer valid. Perhaps they were never valid in the first place. Sometimes our dreams are intercepted by our limiting beliefs, and we become convinced that we can’t do something. One of the reasons I created Crushing Limiting Beliefs was the large number of people coming to me who were being held in check by erroneous ideas about what is possible.
- Learn more about the Crushing Limiting Beliefs course here!
- Realize that your feelings aren’t unusual. Your current mental state is quite common. How many people make the right choices consistently? Nearly every adult wishes they could go back and choose a different career. This includes doctors, lawyers, and successful business owners. Mistakes pile up over the years, and in your mind, the grass is always greener somewhere else. The truth is that no matter where you go and what you try, there will be challenges. There is no perfect situation, no perfect timing, and no perfect relationships.
- This is all a part of the human experience. The next part of your experience is working through it. Embracing this experience will empower you instead of wearying you. Change is inevitable; however, it is purposed, directional, and intentional change that produces the results everyone wants.
- This is all a part of the human experience. The next part of your experience is working through it. Embracing this experience will empower you instead of wearying you. Change is inevitable; however, it is purposed, directional, and intentional change that produces the results everyone wants.
- Realize that you have more control over your situation than you think. It’s easy to feel hopeless, but you have a lot of choices available to you. Being brave enough to choose the best one and run with it is a matter of being brave enough. Fear has the capacity to completely paralyze you, and the interesting thing is the pain and discomfort you are attempting to avoid by listening to your fear still encroach into your perceived paradise. You might as well get something for the trouble.
- Find the limiting belief. There are plenty of things you want to do; you just don’t think you can do them. You might believe you’re too old, need more education, lack the necessary finances, and so on. Look at your limiting beliefs and work through them. The Crushing Limiting Beliefs course takes you on an incredible journey of rediscovery as you break free of limiting beliefs without merit.
Feeling lost is synonymous with lacking direction. Finding a new direction for your life is the key to stop feeling lost.
Find a few things you’d like to do and see this year. Plan a future that you find interesting and exciting. Once your mood is lifted, you’ll see the world with new eyes and be able to find new opportunities that excite you.
